I was totally doctor-phobic, needle-phobic, hospital-phobic. I didn’t know what kind of mom I would be. I didn’t know what the future held. I just knew I wanted a family around my table someday and shoes piled at my back door because a bunch of teenagers had shown up for pizza again. All of that comes later. The first step is babies! I never knew what to do with other people’s babies, but I knew what to do with mine. And that’s enough.

Expect a lot of love, a lot of laughter, a lot of surprises and a lot of sleepless nights. Expect to have your heart blown open when the day finally comes that you are holding your babe in your arms. But don’t expect to be perfect. Don’t expect to love every minute of it. I adore my children, love having them, but I make mistakes, I get frustrated, I roll my eyes and drop f-bombs when my kids can’t hear me. But it’s the craziest kind of love. And all the other stuff just doesn’t matter as much.

If you want a family, you’ll have one, one way or another. And yes, one babe is plenty, and sometimes 4 isn’t enough. Every famiily is different. Have the family you want, when you want it, if you want it. You’ll be a great mom. But you get there by loving the lovely parts, getting help with the stressful parts, ranting to me when it gets to be too much…and then you’ll be swallowed up by love again. In the end, it is worth the risk 100x over.

You have a lot of love to give, I can vouch for that. And you are strong, and wildly fun about life’s imperfections. Keep that attitude handy, there’s no place you can’t go. And that includes motherhood.

xoxo

No promises, no guarantees. But the possibility of a whole other world of love coming into your life. Yeah. Totally worth it.

Thanks for your comment. ; )

ps. Truth be told because I don’t yet have any kids I would not necessarily be reading this site had it not been for the fact that my dearest best friend in the whole wide world is the author however I can say for the official record that I did without question learn something here today and for that I’m eternally grateful. You’ve both taken an invisible weight off my shoulders without even knowing it because I was simply too afraid to ask the “will I be a bad mom” question. XO

I look at pregnant women these days with an odd sense of envy. We’re a happy family of four, but I can’t help but wonder “who” a third baby could end up to be…. But like I said, I gave away the baby stuff. Gone. Yes. We’ve made our decision. Pretty much. Mostly.

i too had mixed feelings about ever wanting to have children and i will not lie, but when my husband and i started trying i still had mixed feelings. in fact, when i found out i was pregnant i did not tell my husband right away. i called a friend for support.

i was one of those women who did not enjoy being pregnant. i was exhausted all the time, had “morning” sickness at night, was uncomfortable sleeping, hated not being able to put my socks on because of my belly and when i heard the heart beat for the first time, i started to cry not because i was happy, but because it made everything that much more real. it was not until when i felt the baby kick for the first time that i was happy. then when he was born, i forgot about all the stuff that came before. was it worth it? hell yeah. lol!!